It’s quarter of a year since she died.

I’ve stopped crying every day. Not every day.

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But still, not a day goes by without something bringing her to mind. Sometimes we just look at each other because we can hear the silence that shouldn’t be there… we can all hear her saying something funny. Sometimes we even know what it was she would say.

Some times we have to turn the music over because we can hear her singing to it or, more often, see her dancing to it.

Sometimes we even remember to be grateful for the good times.

Sometimes we look at each other and wonder why something hasn’t been done, why it’s slipped between the cracks of our teamworking to remember that there’s now a hole in the team where the world fell through.

Rarely now we even buy an extra bar of chocolate, forgetting that she won’t eat it. And joke about the calories as we eat it for her.

Sometimes we do cry still, though. But not every day. Just those days that finish in a Y.

Whole ecosystems of shoes breathe, live, grow old and die without being danced in.

Often-times people are less happy, or ill, because she is not there to make them happy or to make them better. Usually they become happier anyway, or healthier, but it takes them longer. Sometimes I can help them but sometimes it’s me that needs her help.

Sometimes one of us will see a baby in the clothing we’d planned to buy for her unborn baby. Of those times, sometimes we smile. Sometimes we can’t.

Rarely, very rarely, one of us will wonder why the world hasn’t stopped turning after all this time. Occasionally we think it has.

Sometimes, like I said, we even remember to be grateful for the good times.

A wonderful remembrance from an anonymous special guest – thank you for sharing this with us.

While the Earth will still spin if you forget your darling’s birthday or your own anniversary, your personal world may stop spinning for a good while. No matter how real or how good the excuse, it will not be good enough for the neglected partner and who can blame them? You may spend the next 11 months in the dog house if it’s an anniversary, and that can be tough.

Ideally, we would all love to be on top of everything, but in our fast-paced lives, that’s not always possible. Fortunately, that’s no reason to disappoint yourself or your loved one. As long as you remember the occasion which is coming up, with a quick search and a few clicks online you can have the beautiful, personalized bouquet on its way to your darling, and you can be at peace of mind for the rest of the week (or until the next event of course!).

Remember, a hectic schedule may prevent us from personally being able to give a beautiful gift of flowers, but that should not deter you from having a bouquet of fresh, heavenly-smelling flowers delivered to the right place at the right time. Many a crisis has been averted by our “sorry darling flowers”.

Today’s high tech world, which facilitates communication but often hinders face to face contact, has stumbled more than one of us when we really needed to be somewhere for someone. Dates added to our electronic diaries and then forgotten, emails gone adrift…

Happily, the more humanitarian side of our high tech world is catching up and providing the opportunity for us to still show our love and thoughtfulness, even when we physically cannot be at the location. Be it your mother’s birthday, best friend’s wedding anniversary, daughter’s second wedding… (don’t try  missing that one, or you will be sending your daughter huge bouquet’s for the rest of your life, good for us florists, bad for family relations) the events are countless!

Getting flowers where they need to be, and most importantly, on time, is now a very practical alternative to hurt feelings of those who hoped for some sort of attention from you.

Unforeseen events preventing us from arriving on time with a gift will occur, but we can take care of the foreseen events. For instance, something as “unforeseeable” as traffic is actually quite predictable if you live in a built up area. If you know that a lot will be going on at work next week, plan ahead. A bouquet bought ahead of time is much more thoughtful than explaining a late night at work…. if it is a late night at work.

When you are gone for a business trip, a bouquet arriving with your sweetheart’s name on it will bring such joyful confirmation of your thoughtfulness and keep the heat off of you if it’s not purely a business trip; you’ve managed to squeeze in a round of golf and a sauna.

Online flower shopping may seem daunting, as many people like to personally choose not just the type of flowers, but the exact that they will give. And it is true, with online shopping you will choose the bouquet having seen a picture of the flower that will arrive as opposed to the flower itself; here lies the difference between virtual and actual shopping, and let’s face it not all of us me like actual shopping (except for Kip, he said so in the comments of another post).  With virtual shopping, you must buy from a worthy florist with a reputation for their online deliveries.

A reputable Essex florist will provide top-notch bouquets even without you seeing the actual flowers. Once you have chosen your florist and bouquet, you can be assured that a fresh and beautiful bouquet will arrive on time. Depending on the flowers and the season, you may be ordering a bouquet, elements of which are coming from the Caribbean, others from South Africa a truly international delight.

As flowers are fragile, utmost care is taken in each step of their delivery, their combination into the bouquet you want, and the last stretch of the journey to the person you love. Customers who buy flowers via the phone are very satisfied, in the majority, as exactly what they want arrives when they want it to. Unlike them who may be somewhat dishevelled after their business / golf trip and in need of a good nights sleep.

The occasions to send flowers are not rare and far between. So many occasions are wondrous events in people’s lives, and if you cannot be there to share joy, nothing says you care as much as a smiling bouquet from you. Great suggestions for events that you may not personally attend can be friends’ or family’s births and baptisms, awards won, diplomas earned, engagements or marriage (brides are known to be under stress the last few weeks before the wedding a handsome bouquet from a caring friend who is sorry to miss the wedding is a beautiful gesture and will be therapeutic for the bride!).

Sad occasions also call for flowers, especially when we cannot be there ourselves to offer our support or sympathy.  Remember those working late at the office flowers? If  your caught with your pant’s down we’ll be selling your former spouse your funeral flowers

When a friend is going through sickness, or a divorce, we need to offer all the moral support we can. When our presence is absent, flowers can do a lot to lift the mood of a person. Death is also a time when flowers are the best way to express grief and condolences. Illness and in health, flowers are the best companion to go, especially when you are not able to be present for the  special event.

As it turns out, your physical inability to be present at an important occasion is no excuse for not sending your wishes. With online florists, you can send elegant flowers to represent you!

The flowers you buy and send via the internet are of impressive quality, at more competitive prices than are possible at actual flower shops, and will arrive at the address you send them to on time. There are countless holidays and occasions which beg to be complemented with flowers, and when we take the extra steps to send a beautiful bouquet, the receiver is glad and touched by the thoughtfulness of the sender, while the sender is glad at the amount of joy the brief minutes of online shopping have brought.

A few minutes of your time that creates memories that last almost a lifetime.

Jim

Jim and Mary Haran have a bespoke florists in Basildon, Essex and will happily help smooth over life’s difficult moments with a stunning bouquet from their flower shop. If you are in Benfleet call in for a cuppa.